January 16, 2014

This Monday “How I Met Your Mother” screened a controversial Kung-Fu themed episode. The episode featured such scenes as exaggerated accents, characters drinking tea, eating noodles, or practicing calligraphy. The show, the latest in their run of “Slapsgiving” gags, caused an angry response (helpfully cataloged under the hashtag #HowIMetYourRacism).



Almost 18 hours after the show aired, co-creator Carter Bays took to Twitter to make his apology (NOTE: Tweets read from bottom to top):



These are just a couple of reasons why we like Carter’s move here:


  • Carter came to the point of anger – Twitter – and even used the #HowIMetYourRacism hashtag to directly enter the hostile conversation
  • He actually thanked people for their anger – for raising the issue
  • He acknowledged, and apologized for, the length of time between airing and apology
  • He contextualized how this happened, without turning it into an excuse
  • He apologized, directly, and unreservedly – sometimes the most well-meant apologies fall down because they fail to simply use the “S” word
  • He asked for forgiveness indirectly, with a commitment to regain trust 

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